Marriages are no longer unions which last a lifetime. Most societies now have a provision for divorce. The emotional effect is usually strong. Feelings of desertion, despair and rejection are common. Affected people may find it hard to share their feelings with others. Socially, the status of the divorced person has changed, further exacerbating the situation. This is why people are likely to turn to books to help them go through this process. Here are a dozen books that should help.
1. Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life by Abigail Trafford This book is a tried and tested guide for anyone going through the trauma of a divorce. The author writes with wisdom and empathy.
2. Transformational Divorce: Discover Yourself, Reclaim Your Dreams, and Embrace Life’s Unlimited Possibilities by Karen Kahn Wilson The author is a divorce coach and therapist. She urges women to take the chance to do all the things they really want to. The book demonstrates how women can re build their lives in a new and fulfilling way.
3. Heartburn by Nora Ephron This book was written by a scriptwriter who has penned the scripts for many popular movies. It is autobiographical, and the author has thrown in humour as well as some recipes, for good measure.
4. How to Avoid the Divorce from Hell: And Dance Together at Your Daughter’s Wedding by M. Sue Talia The author is a renowned divorce lawyer. With her vast experience, she gives valuable insights on how to make the best of a bad situation.
5. The Mighty Queens of Freeville by Amy Dickinson This memoir has been written by an advice columnist. She shares her experiences of how she was helped by the women in her family.
6. Split: A Story of Love, Betrayal and Divorce by Suzanne Finnamore Divorce leads to loss and grief. The author has used the five stages of grief as a framework for her story.
7. Divorce Bootcamp for Low-and â€“Moderate-Income Women by Anna T. Merrill, Esq. The whole process of divorce can be a financial drain. This book is intended for those who cannot afford expensive divorce lawyers. The author provides information on subjects ranging from how to be financially independent to information on custody and alimony. It even gives advice on filling up court forms.
8. Falling Apart in One Piece: One Optimist’s Journey Through the Hell of Divorce by Stacy Morrison The author tells of how she had to manage a high pressure job while providing for the emotional needs of her baby. She has written with humour and honesty of her struggle to get her life in order.
9. The Divorce Diet by Ellen Hawley This is the story of a wife and mother who loves to cook good food. She is devastated when her husband wants a divorce, and moves back to her parents’ house. Here, she starts to piece her life back together.
10. What Every Woman Should Know About Divorce and Custody: Judges, Lawyers, and Therapists Share Winning Strategies on How to Keep the Kids, the Cash and Your Sanity by Gayle Rosenwald Smith, J.D., and Sally Abrahms The title of the book is self- explanatory. It is an informative guide, and deals with a great variety of difficult issues.
11. Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss Into the Best Thing that Ever Happened to You by Susan J. Elliott This bestselling book is an optimistic look at how to gain control of your own life and find happiness again.
12. How to Sleep Alone in a King- Size Bed: A Memoir of Starting Over by Theo Pauline Nestor Loneliness is usually the first side effect, when one’s partner has opted out of marriage. This author has recorded her feeling of desolation and how she made a new beginning.