What is Passive-Aggressive?
Passive-aggressive is a personality trait that is considered manipulative in nature. People that are considered as “passive-aggressive” tend to be stubborn, unwilling to yield, and almost always disagree with a given situation. People who have this trait sort of makes it a habit to try to impose their view on particular situations or concerns.
Many people consider this trait as a personality disorder, but there are also some who would present arguments that being passive-aggressive is actually just a defense mechanism to avoid facing unwanted situations. But many experts have pointed out several signs and symptoms to help determine if a person indeed has this type of personality trait or disorder. One common trait shared by passive-aggressive people is ambiguity. This refers to their way of showing their feelings of insecurity in the people around them by hiding their own insecurities. It is typical for those with passive-aggressive traits to put the blame in others when a certain situation is actually caused by him/her. Passive-aggressive people also tend to make chaotic situations as a form of avoidance to some unwanted result or incident. These people also mastered the art of making excuses, always delay the performance of tasks, argue when given new tasks, and always fear of being compared with others. They are also often distrustful of other people which further makes them very skeptic and stubborn.
It is said that this type of behavior is developed at an early age and is retained up to adulthood. Experts believe that if children were successful in imposing their personalities upon their parents early on in life, their personalities may continue into their adult lives. Simple disobedience, arguing, and procrastination may be considered tolerable behavior for some, but if children demonstrate these types of behavior and are tolerated often, some of them may feel “power” that they were able to manipulate a certain situation. These “power” feelings may push them later in life to tap into their learned stubbornness to do whatever they want and disagree with their environment.